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IT’S NOT ON THEM, IT’S ON YOU

“If someone is slipping up, kindly correct them and point out what they missed. But if you can’t, blame yourself— or no one.”

- MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS

Summary

Marcus Aurelius advises taking a compassionate and constructive approach when others make mistakes. If you can, gently correct and guide them toward the right path. However, if you’re unable to help or improve the situation, don’t waste time blaming others. Instead, either take responsibility yourself or let go of blame entirely, as dwelling on faults is unproductive.

Interpretation

In everyday life, it’s easy to get frustrated when people around us falter, whether in work, relationships, or other areas. Marcus teaches us to prioritize kindness and constructive action over criticism. For those familiar with Stoic principles, this reflects the idea of focusing on what is within your control—your actions and responses—while accepting what is not. By practicing understanding and self-accountability, you create a more harmonious and effective approach to interpersonal challenges.

 

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