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DON’T TELL YOURSELF STORIES

“In public avoid talking often and excessively about your accomplishments and dangers, for however much you enjoy recounting your dangers, it’s not so pleasant for others to hear about your affairs.”

- EPICTETUS, ENCHIRIDION

Summary:
Epictetus warns against excessive self-promotion and storytelling about personal achievements or hardships. While we may find joy in recounting our experiences, others may not share the same enthusiasm. Constantly talking about ourselves can come across as boastful or self-absorbed, making it harder to connect with others meaningfully.

Interpretation:
In real life, this means practicing humility and self-awareness in conversations. Instead of dominating discussions with our own stories, we should listen more and engage with others’ experiences. True confidence doesn’t require constant validation from others, and wisdom comes from observing and learning rather than always seeking attention. By shifting focus away from self-centred narratives, we build stronger relationships and gain deeper insights from the world around us.

 

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