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FIND THE RIGHT SCENE

“Above all, keep a close watch on this—that you are never so tied to your former acquaintances and friends that you are pulled down to their level. If you don’t, you’ll be ruined. . . . You must choose whether to be loved by these friends and remain the same person, or to become a better person at the cost of those friends . . . if you try to have it both ways you will neither make progress nor keep what you once had.”

- EPICTETUS, DISCOURSES

“From good people you’ll learn good, but if you mingle with the bad you’ll destroy such soul as you had.”
— MUSONIUS RUFUS, QUOTING THEOGNIS OF MEGARA, LECTURES

Summary:
Epictetus and Musonius Rufus stress the importance of surrounding ourselves with people who support our growth rather than those who hold us back. Staying too attached to old friendships or environments that no longer align with our values can prevent progress. If we truly want to improve ourselves, we must be willing to let go of influences that pull us down, even if it means losing certain relationships.

Interpretation:
In real life, this means being mindful of the company we keep. If we spend time with negative, unmotivated, or toxic people, their habits and attitudes can rub off on us. On the other hand, being around those who inspire discipline, wisdom, and integrity helps us become better versions of ourselves. While it may be difficult to distance ourselves from certain friendships, prioritising our personal growth ensures we build a life that aligns with our highest values.

 

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