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THINGS HAPPEN IN TRAINING

When your sparring partner scratches or head-butts you, you don’t then make a show of it, or protest, or view him with suspicion or as plotting against you. And yet you keep an eye on him, not as an enemy or with suspicion, but with a healthy avoidance. You should act this way with all things in life. We should give a pass to many things with our fellow trainees. For, as I’ve said, it’s possible to avoid without suspicion or hate.

- MARCUS AURELIUS, MEDITATIONS

Summary:
Marcus Aurelius compares life to sparring, where unexpected challenges or difficult people may come our way. He advises that, while we shouldn’t react with hostility or suspicion, we should remain alert and avoid harm without bitterness, accepting that such difficulties are part of the process.

Interpretation:
In real life, this might apply to dealing with difficult colleagues, family members, or life’s challenges. If someone acts rudely or a situation arises that seems unfair, instead of reacting with anger or resentment, we can maintain a composed mindset. Just as in sparring, we recognise the situation for what it is—an opportunity to stay focused, avoid unnecessary conflict, and learn from the experience, without seeing others as enemies. It’s about choosing how we engage with life’s discomforts, focusing on self-control rather than reaction.

 

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